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Online social networks are very useful for making new friends. Are you able to make new friends online? If not, you may be missing out on a very useful resource. If
you are lonely and not using Facebook, or are lonely, have a Facebook
account but don't know how to use it to overcome your loneliness,
this is for you.
Perhaps if I described my experience using...
...Facebook as a social network, we can find
common ground. I had known about Facebook for many years but I had
not wanted to create a Facebook profile. I had security concerns and
concerns about loss of privacy. I had been reading news items about
such issues for years.
However, I had created a Facebook page for
this website. Having created the page I could not figure out how
Facebook worked because without a profile I could not do much with my
Finally, I overcame my concerns and created a Facebook
profile in 2013. As soon as I had created the profile, I received an
update from a person at my church who was surprised I was on Facebook. I
responded to that update and befriended that person.
things flowed easily. That person recommended several others as
friends and before I knew it I had befriended several dozen friends
and relatives. I love it! It is so easy to be in touch with everyone
and see their photos. Facebook makes it very easy to send out
birthday greeting updates which I enjoy very much.
What would a lonely person do if...
...s/he did not get a fast start on
Facebook like I did? Here is a neat solution: Go to Google and
search for the term “site:Facebook.com groups lonely”. You will
get several pages of search results showing Facebook pages of groups
for lonely people.
Take a look at the latest post on any such
Facebook page you open up. If the latest post was less than a few
hours ago, add your post in the box that says “Write something to
'Name of Group'”.
I would highly recommend that you post only on
the pages of the group that appeals to you and where you think you
can make some friends. Also post only on those pages that have at
least a hundred likes. That's how you stand a good chance of finding
friends within that group.
If you feel you need some mentoring to overcome issues of loneliness caused by your thought process, go to the Another Lonely Christmas page. That page has a link to a web page that provides mentoring via email. Take advantage of the mentoring before you post on the pages of a group on Facebook.
There are other online social networks but according to a Pew
Research Center report, most of the people are on Facebook. So it is
worthwhile to join the most popular one, at least for starters.
Also, please remember to...
...be patient and put your 'best foot
forward' when trying to make friends online.
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