I have closed myself off from the world other than my job because lonley stinks. I have always felt everyone else is better than me. I don't like myself and don't know how to fit in anywhere.I can't take much more of this pathetic, sad, lonley life I lead.I want so much to feel happiness and joy and laughter.
Comment by Lonely People Champion:
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You seem to be describing loneliness caused by low self-esteem. The problem can be overcome by building up your self-esteem. Search for the term, 'How to build up self esteem' in Google. The very first search result that comes up talks about several excellent steps to take so you can build up your self-esteem.
Loneliness can also build on itself by using the negative thought process. All of us humans are prone to thinking negatively. You get lonely, you start to think negatively, which causes you to do things that increase your loneliness, which causes you to think more negatively and so it builds. Eventually you close yourself of from the world and your loneliness becomes chronic.
In order to make friends you need to like yourself. Once you can make friends with yourself and consider yourself good company, you can extend your niceness to other people and make friends.
In order to feel joy and happiness, an individual has to give. It is one of the best ways to make friends. One easy way to give is to volunteer whole-heartedly. Volunteering is one of the best ways to overcome loneliness.
Loneliness is actually an easy problem to solve: improve your self-esteem, learn to like your self, reconnect with people you used to know with the goal of finding four people you can connect with regularly. You don't need to become 'popular', you just need four people you can call up any time you feel like having company.
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