Lonely No More - What Can One Do To Be That Way?

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To be lonely no more is a choice you can make. It does not depend on your intimate partner, it depends on you. Always remember to  reflect and enhance good emotions and thus keep your inner being shiny.

What happens if you keep ...

... your inner being shiny and nobody directs their light at you? Keep on keeping your inner being nice and wonderful because when the right person comes along everything will work like a charm to lead you into your ideal intimate relationship.

To be lonely no more is ...

... quite likely your goal if you are reading this page. To show you how to do that is the goal of this website.

There are five pillars to being lonely no more: a successful intimate relationship, a few good friends, a social life with acquaintances, a strong private faith in God and an absence of secret desires.


Each of those five pillars has to be good and strong. Of these five pillars the most important pillar is the one in the center - a successful intimate relationship.

Loneliness is simply a desire for intimacy.

You will need to work on having the other four pillars strong as well.

Wouldn't it be nice if ...

... someone, anyone, found a single solution that would work to overcome the loneliness of the millions of people who are lonely?

Kurt Vonnegut wrote a science fiction novel (in 1976) about such a solution. In the novel the character Dr. Wilbur Daffodil-11 Swain and his twin sister Eliza create a plan to end loneliness in America by creating large extended families from people who have no blood relationship. Dr. Wilbur Daffodil-11 Swain uses the plan and the slogan, "Lonesome No More!" to get elected to the Presidency of the United States.

You can read about the book at Lonesome No More!

In the seventies, Kurt Vonnegut wrote about the loneliness experienced by people in modern society. He correctly identified the modern economy as the root cause of the loneliness of it's members.

He seems to have believed that the solution to loneliness is an extended family. I think he was right.

An extended family provides you a basic connection to society. Through that basic connection, you have the pathways you can use to find your intimate relationship.

However, an extended family also presents problems that firmly embed you in your particular society and you don't have much privacy.

So, leaving the extended family exposes you to the danger of loneliness and staying
connected to the extended family reduces your freedom.

The extended family mentioned in ...

... "Lonesome No More!" from 1976 is quite possible in 2014. All you have to do is form online-only friendships based on hobbies or other interests. Such online friendships can only fulfill the need for social relationships.

You would still have to build the other four pillars.

Strengthening the five pillars mentioned above can help you be lonely no more.

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