Domestic violence helplines are very useful. However, to make full use of the helplines it helps to gather up a few pieces of useful information before you call a domestic violence helpline.
There is a lot of useful information from...
...a male perspective at this website about domestic violence in Colorado, USA. It contains information gleaned from a lot of sources (www.ejfi.org/help/help-2.html).
The author of the website has the point of view of a male lay person. It takes a few hours to read through the website but it is still worthwhile because he presents a lot information for you to sort through and decide which information is useful for you.
Please realize that you take full responsibility...
...for any actions you take or avoid taking. The purpose of this web page is to list a few numbers of some domestic violence helplines. If you are at risk of serious injury or your life is in danger, please call 911.
If you are not at risk of death or serious injury, see if you can solve the problem without having to call 911. Because of mandatory arrests in incidents of domestic violence, calling 911 can result in the arrest at least one of the involved parties - usually the male.
The arrest causes many difficulties for the arrested member and the family as a whole.
Initially, instead of calling 911, try:
1. Talking to a spiritual adviser or another person you trust to get some advice and help. Take this step or any of the other steps only if it makes sense for you to do so.
2. Check the laws in your state to check and see if doctors, other health care providers, counseling or mental health centers are required to file a report about the abuse you have suffered. If not, then talk to your doctor, health care provider, counselor or mental health professional about the domestic violence and they can refer you to resources in your area. You can have the violence reported but then you have to go along with whatever the "authorities" suggest. Sometimes that is a good thing and sometimes it is not. If you can resolve the domestic violence problem in the very early stages by using the resources available to you, then that would be the way to go.
If the domestic violence cannot be stopped in the very early stages
(within four to five episodes) then it may be time to make plans to
leave the relationship. The help lines can provide you some help with
3. When you call the help lines, ask them if they can help you contact a local court to get a restraining order against the abuser to keep the abuser away from you. Ask the help lines about the effectiveness or ineffectiveness of restraining orders.
Here are the phone numbers of domestic violence helplines:
For USA there is the National Domestic Violence Hotline: (800) 799-7233 which is the same as (800) 799-SAFE
For people who are hard of hearing their number is : (800) 787-3224.
For USA and Canada the Domestic Abuse Helpline is 1-888-743-5754 (1-888-7HELPLINE).
For UK the ManKind Initiative provides a helpline number - 01823 334244
For Australia: The One in Three Campaign offers 1800 737 732 which is the same as 1800 RESPECT.
The website of the OneInThree Campaign is http://www.oneinthree.com.au/servicesandresources/
Quite often an adult finds..
...it very difficult to leave an abusive relationship because of the children.
The National Child Abuse Hotline 1-800-422-4453 (1-800-4 -A- CHILD) may be quite useful.
While information and domestic violence helplines can provide ASSISTANCE, the solution comes from within you and the responsibility for your action or inaction remains with you.
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