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Dealing with social anxiety will not do
you any good. You need to overcome it. Put it out of your life so you
can live your life to the fullest. Dealing with it implies that it is
not going anywhere and you are just going to learn to live with it.
It is quite possible to kick it out. Click here to find out how to
overcome social anxiety.
If you promise to overcome social
anxiety, here are a few techniques to deal with it until you overcome it.
Dealing with social anxiety technique
When the anxious thoughts start, use
this mantra silently, “Cancel, cancel, Delete, delete,
Erase, erase” and push the anxious thoughts out of your mind. Use it
every time a negative and anxiety causing thought comes up in your
mind. As you can see this is a coping mechanism to deal with social
Technique number 2:
Another thing you can do to calm
yourself down, when your anxious thoughts start, is to unobtrusively
join the tips of your thumb, fore finger and middle finger on each
hand. Try it now. You will notice a calm descending on you as soon as
those finger tips meet. Touch and separate those fingertips and you
can actually feel the effect in your brain.
Technique Number 3:
Still another technique is to breathe
deliberately. The way you can breathe deliberately is to pull your
breath as deeply as you can. Hold your breath for a second and then
slowly, gently, let it out. Repeat.
When you breathe in, most people
cannot tell how deeply you are breathing unless you breathe in
loudly. It is quite possible to breathe deliberately and
unobtrusively. You will feel calmer as you get more air into your
lungs. Again, this is just a coping technique.
Technique Number 4:
When I was learning to stop smoking, I
found myself seriously distracted by billboard ads for cigarettes.
spoke about it to the American Cancer Society facilitator. He
suggested that I look at the message on the billboard and change the
message in my mind to a message that urged me to not smoke.
It became an interesting game for me. The message which was triggering
my smoking urge became something which triggered my resolve to not
smoke. The billboard message came at me in a micro second. I would change the words before the message settled in my mind. The memory of the message was the changed message. The idea worked and I was able to give up smoking.
You can do something similar. Let each
negative and anxiety causing thought trigger a positive and
confidence-giving thought that triggers a resolve to overcome your
social anxiety. If you do it for 29 days, it will become a habit and
a very interesting game until you take the steps to overcome your
Dealing with social anxiety is...
...just a coping technique. It ought to be
done only until you learn to overcome social anxiety.
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