Wouldn't it be nice to have someone to call?Are you suffering from loneliness? If you had someone to call, wouldn't that take care of the problem? Simple enough, isn't it? Yet, not so simple for lonely people. Whom to call? That is the big question. There is a phone number provided at the bottom of the page but you will derive more benefit if you read your way to the phone number. If you search through your memory, it may be hard to find someone to call who is going to make you feel better by the end of the conversation. I am going to show you, on this page, how to solve that problem. Take into consideration a few facts about yourself before you reach for the phone. A few phone calls to known persons are not going to make you a sociable person. Your first step for achieving that is to admit to yourself and the world that you are a lonely person and you are the one that needs to find someone to call. Also, ask yourself if you are the kind of person you would like to receive a call from. Are you gruff in person. Are you short tempered and likely to lose your temper in the middle of a phone conversation? Remember, temper loss is not allowed while on a social phone call. Are you likely to end the phone conversation abruptly? That is also a no-no. Phone conversations are supposed to have a warm up phase at the beginning, warm conversation in the middle and a cool down phase at the end. Otherwise you will leave your callee feeling bad. Do you have a lot to complain about? Well, don't do any complaining on your calls. Most people cannot stand to be at the receiving end of a call from a complainer. Similarly, you will find that your call will not be welcome if you have done terrible things to hurt the feelings of friends or relatives in the past, are moody, nosy or you have the habit of gossiping. Make sure you are in a mood to build bridges and not walls when you make these calls to relatives or old friends. Remember, you are the one that will benefit when your call goes well. Now take a pen and paper and make a list of every one who is your relative or friend and could be someone to call. Arrange the list in the order you would like to call them. Call the first person on the list. If that person is not available to answer your call, move on to the next person in the list until you are talkig to some one on the phone. If during that phone conversation, another known person's name comes up, ask for that person's phone number. If the phone number or contact information is not offered, ignore that situation and complete your call. Call the next person on the list and follow the same process. Most people can work their way to atleast a few people they can call regularly, say once a month. Supposing there is no one you "feel like bothering." That is not a good enough excuse. Loneliness is very difficult to endure and it has some very serious bad effects on your health. But supposing there is no one you can call. There is a solution for that as well. The Boys and Girls Town National hotline for distressed boys and girls is at 1-800-448-3000. If you are an adult, that is O.K. They will refer you to other phone numbers you can call. If you are in the United States, dial 211 and see if you reach a person who can give you a list of essential community service phone numbers. In that long list will be a phone number you can call to just chat with some one for a few minutes and be guided to some good community resources. If you are not in the United States, go to howtocallabroad.com and find out how to dial an 800 U.S. number from another country. Solution: Search through your list of relatives and acquaintances to find at least three people you can call. The forgive old hurts and just call them.
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