A social network in tatters or absent
maybe the reason you are lonely. An understanding of a network of friends and family and its importance may be a big help in overcoming your
A lot of lonely people have strong
opinions and don't easily get along with others. They are quite happy
to be “left alone”. However, life is a dynamic thing, built one
day at a time.
If you seek to be left alone, you will get your wish and
before you know it you will find yourself unconnected to a network of
people. Your intimate
relationship is part of your social structure.
That is how you come to find yourself
lonely and your social structure absent.
Some people start out with a social structure but don't take the actions needed to maintain their network
in the face of life changes. When you leave school and go to college, when you or your friends get married, when you change jobs, when you retire, those are the life changes after which you have to work to maintain and rejuvenate your network.
Maintaining a social group involves
making new friends and spending time with friends you already have.
Socializing with friends you already have, is expensive in terms of
time. However, it is worthwhile to spend the time keeping up
friendships; otherwise the quality of life suffers terribly.
If your social network is either absent
or in bad shape there are four things to do that might help:
1. Join a religious organization and
actively volunteer in their activities or actively participate in
the activities. Make sure you agree with the spiritual thought
process of the religious organization that you choose, so you can
grow spiritually in addition to building your social safety net.
an effort to keep away from politics because religious organizations
have a tendency to get you involved in politics. You would probably be better off being involved in politics without the group think of any organization.
2. Join Facebook. Read up on how to set
your privacy settings so that you can overcome your privacy concerns
about Facebook. Send out friend requests to your email list and to
any friends you have from your past.
When you get friends on
Facebook, actively stay in touch with them. Online networks like
Facebook are the new way of maintaining such networks.
3. Spend some time convincing yourself that
you need to provide social events, and attend social events even
though you don't have the natural inclination to do so.
much on the irritating aspects of people is likely to send you back
to your loneliness. You have to look past the nature and weaknesses
of human beings and focus on the good in them.
4. Realize that you need two things to be
a) You need a social network and it is
important for your mental and physical health.
b) You have to give a gift to every human you meet; whether it is a
smile, a compliment, special knowledge that will benefit them, your desire for
their well being or something they value.
A social network is very important for
your well being. It takes time to maintain it and now you know how to
build, repair and maintain it.
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