A lonely island is not a symbol of
strength any more. Such islands are likely to sink under the rising
oceans and disappear. People who were “self-sufficient” used to
be known as solitary islands. However, that is a misunderstanding.
There is no glory in being such an...
...island because being that way is completely contrary to human nature.
There are many men and women whose only friend is the spouse. If they
have the misfortune of becoming widows or widowers, they find it
almost impossible to avoid loneliness.
So, it is a good idea to keep up your
skill of making new friends at every available opportunity. Doing so
will not mean that you have too many friends. It means that
you will have friends when you need friendly support. Also
you can provide support to friends and live a fulfilling life.
Photo by Eugeni Dodonov reduced bits under License.
A desolate island...
...weathers storms all by
itself. It also “weathers” a storm that leaves it underwater.
The apparent advantage to some people,
of being a strong and silent island, is that they think they get
'respect' from their spouses. What they are getting is not respect
but communication through a twisted, kinked communication channel.
Strong and silent singles have problems initiating or continuing a
Another advantage of being a strong and
silent island is that the person gets to do everything on his or her
timetable. That disadvantage disappears a few years after the strong
and silent island becomes lonely.
It takes a simple acknowledgment of the
...all of us need companionship, love and intimacy. Once you
have acknowledged that, it is not very difficult to change your
attitude, become open to receiving friends and start taking the
practical steps to make new friends.
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