Would you like to deal with loneliness?

Let us first understand loneliness. How to deal with it is explained at the bottom of this page. Why is one person in emotional pain on being alone and another person in emotional ecstasy on being alone? What is it that makes them look at the same solitude so differently?

The person that is in emotional pain because of his solitude doesn't want the solitude. That person wants the opposite of solitude - companionship or a feeling of connectedness with humanity. Such a person is quite often unaware of his or her connection to the divine.

The person who is in emotional ecstasy in solitude has human companionship already. That person is already connected with humanity. Such a person knows that not spending time alone can increase stress levels. Solitude, to that person, represents an opportunity to get into the silence and connect with the divine.

The solution for the person who is in emotional pain at being alone is to look the loneliness full in the face until it backs off and admits failure. The person needs to embrace the loneliness, quiet his mind and listen. Listen for a message from the divine. Once you get your first divine message, you can start asking questions of the divine. As soon as you start asking questions of the divine, answers will pop into your mind or come at you from sources external to you.

Some people don't have to be alone to be lonely! They can be in the company of friends or in an intimate relationship and feel very desolate - because they find it impossible to "connect" with any one. They have this feeling of being alienated from every one. Such people describe a feeling of "emptiness". Since the problem begins inside them they need to turn inward into their own minds and figure out the root cause for their feelings of alienation.

It helps to have the help of a psychotherapist or hypnotherapist to identify the root cause of such feelings. Be sure to ask the therapist to help you identify the root cause of the thoughts that cause you to feel alienated from people. Once that cause is identified the therapist can help you deal with that cause and find your way out of alienation and involuntary solitude.

The feelings of alienation from others can start with a person's opinion of himself or herself. If the person has low self-esteem or believes, consciously or unconsciously, that the person is bad, unlovable, was wronged in childhood, the person may avoid social contact. Once avoidance of social contact is started, it easily becomes a habit. The trouble starts some years later when the person starts to feel the pain of isolation and alienation.

One of the solutions:

Solution: Listen to talk radio and participate in it by calling in.

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