Lonely People - learn to break free. Are you socially isolated? Are you a woman who just broke up with her boyfriend? A man who just got divorced? Or are you an old man who just retired? Do you need information about dealing with your involuntary solitude? You have come to the right website. The information I give on several webpages will soon have you leaving your loneliness behind. There is a solution presented at the bottom of each page, including one immediate solution that is hidden somewhere on this website. I created this website to show you how to do it yourself. That, of course, involves learning all the strategies for becoming a sociable person who has friends and relationships.
Learn to like yourself first. Learn to make friends next. Later on you can learn how to get into a relationship. After you have learned most of the strategies and moved yourself into a socially satisfying life, you are welcome to teach the techniques to others. Teaching these techniques to others will only solidify your position as a person who has overcome such problems.
Solutions are worth their weight in gold. Most of a person’s roadblocks in life present themselves as problems that appear to
be unsolvable by the person. All the research being done on
loneliness is not of much immediate use to a person trying to deal with the problem.
This website is all about solutions - the 'what to do' steps.
Three of the toughest problems facing people are listed below:
i) They are so negatively affected by their loneliness that they look at the solutions and do not realize that they are looking at the methods or action plans that will solve the problem for them.
ii) They examine the actions that will solve the problem, actions that are sometimes as simple as clicking on a web link, but they don’t take the action. That kind of behavior is based on fear – fear of getting hurt, of making their situation worse, fear of doing anything.
iii) They may be trying to solve problem the old fashioned way, without using the internet. Well, if you read on, you will find methods to solve the problem by using the internet but on
one of the pages I also provide a phone number you can call to help you overcome your loneliness.
Read on and learn how to help yourself and help others.
Want to become a Lonely People Champion?
I provide the information about the strategies. The only way to become a such a Champion is to do the following: Read and understand the terms of use and legal disclaimer of this website. Take responsibility for the actions you choose. Take those actions and practice taking those actions until you achieve the necessary results.
Would you like a magic wand to make your desolateness go away and come back as a wonderfully satisfying social life? The only way to get such a magic wand is to make it yourself. You can make such a magic wand if you are willing to take responsibility and act on the steps in all the twelve action stages.
Unfortunately, we live our lives according to a script we learned before the age of six.Most psychotherapists, psychoanalysts and psychologists know that we live our lives according to a script we learned before the age of six. This is based on the theories of Dr. Eric Berne.
These are life improving action stages and each stage can take several days, weeks or months to accomplish but the steps in each stage are very do-able.
You are probably very familiar with the pain of involuntary solitude. You may or may not be aware of the causes, but it is the solution that most people seek. This website focuses on the solutions. Using twelve action stages I focus on four different classes of loneliness: 1) Fleeting 2) Temporary 3) Chronic 4) Permanent.
Now I am not a psychologist, psychotherapist, or psychoanalyst. However, I am very interested in the ways of dealing with loneliness and I believe that when one person decides to go after a problem and looks into finding a lot of solutions to it, that one person can do a lot more than the academics.
I do not know you.
While I can come up with, research and explore a large number of possible solutions and present them all together on this website, I do not know whether you will implement the solutions. If you want to leave the hell of desolate solitude and travel to the heaven of a fulfilled life, then it is up to you to take each step of the journey out.
Or, if you believe that your solitary condition is permanent, you can learn the strategies to make peace with your situation and live a happy but possibly shorter life.
Loneliness is a solve-able problem for almost every person, including lonely old people. It is hard to believe that, particularly when one is in the throes of loneliness - but it is, in a very large majority of cases, a solvable problem. Some of the solutions presented may be completely impractical for you. You may not agree that a particular solution will work but it is the goal of this website to present many solutions. All you need is one solution that works for you.
To find solutions I had to first understand loneliness
It is the hardest thing to overcome. And yet I have found several solutions. Still, there is a problem - loneliness may cause inertia in many people. Even though people complain bitterly about how the involuntary solitude affects them, they usually refuse to do much about it. It is odd but lonely people hide out at home - as if solitude was going to solve their problem!
They don't like to attract attention to themselves. Having gotten separated from the group, they blame themselves, and do the next best thing: try to avoid attracting attention to themselves - in an attempt to keep themselves safe.
But that is the nature of the beast - it seems to cause a kind of paralysis. The person gets bored, sadder and more withdrawn and takes on characteristics which invite more involuntary solitude. Sad but true - a huge number of people either wallow in their loneliness or wistfully dream of the wonderful person who is going to rescue them.
Well, someone might come and rescue you, but on his or her own schedule! It might be much quicker if you found a way to rescue yourself - on your time schedule.
How do we end up withdrawing into ourselves?
Since I am not a psychoanalyst, psychologist, or psychotherapist, I am not going to try to explain why some of us get into the circumstances that cause us to withdraw into ourselves. This website is focused on the practical steps a person could take to change himself or herself in order to get out of involuntary solitude and boredom. Often it is our own thoughts, actions, views and opinions that are responsible for our circumstances. I found a lot of clues in Dr. Eric Berne's theory of Transactional Analysis.
Not everyone succeeds in breaking free from the problems caused by involuntary solitude but on this website you will find the best available information that is needed to break free or make peace with the problem.
How do we get out of loneliness?
Isn't it wonderful that there is all this useful information gathered on one website? Information you can use to get out of involuntary solitude and boredom, improve your life and start a wonderful and satisfying social life?
Want to read a useful quote?
"The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely or unhappy is to go outside, somewhere where they can be quiet,
alone with the heavens, nature and God. Because only then does one feel that all is as it should be and that God wishes to
see people happy, amidst the simple beauty of nature. As long as this exists, and it certainly always will, I know that then
there will always be comfort for every sorrow, whatever the circumstances may be. And I firmly believe that nature brings
The only way to become a such a Champion is to do the following: Read and understand the terms of use and legal disclaimer of this website. Take responsibility for the actions you choose. Take those actions and practice taking those actions until you achieve the necessary results.
